Many couples find themselves asking this question, during their wedded lives, at some point or the other. However much a marriage may seem perfect, there is always scope for improvement. The only way to keep your marriage alive is through good old hard work on both sides. There are small and simple things, which can be done by both the partners, to counteract problems and sort them out amicably:

Distinguish what seems to be the Problem
You and your spouse first and for most need to have a heart to heart and recognize what the problems are. This can harder than you think, as this requires some amount of self-analysis. We may not always like what we see but by recognizing it, especially with your partner, is the first step to fixing things in your relationship.

Meaningful personal interaction
The most efficient means to maintain a flourishing relationship is through an open communication. It is possible that we just do not find the time for it, with our time being fully booked by work commitments, babies or other family responsibilities. It needs to become a daily habit of quality time and you need to make time for each other and communicate. You ought to be fair and sincere not just with yourself but with your partner too as this plays a critical role. Communication is important, as we ought to learn to be a good listener as well as stand by our partners. Close and intimate communication with each other is the only way you can reach out to each other.

Reverence
The esteem, with which you treat one another, is another important ingredient. Do you and your spouse fight like cats and dogs? Is swearing, name calling and pointing fingers a part of your speech with one another? When things seem to falter and may not work out that well between the two of you, chances are, you would easily fall into that kind of situation and manner. Previous damages inflicted in your relationship can still be easily repaired once you have high respect with one another which is truly a big thing in any relationships. Think back to when you met your spouse and how you treated one another from the beginning - how have things changed?

Work on Connection and Intimacy
Loss of tenderness and connectivity are really big and this is often the situation when the marriage is going sour. Finding time to connect with your partner will help greatly in most cases. Sex activity is another marital harmony restorer as it promotes physical and mental closeness once again. It may be awkward to think about sex if you’re having trouble with your relationship, however, if you see to it that you have time to be intimate with each other, then you can somehow bring back the moments that have spiced up your life. Generally, it may really be difficult to save matrimony from falling apart, although this can be done easily and may give out better results if both the couples are determined and committed enough to make things work.